It is moments like these when suicide seems mysterious. It can be hard to comprehend why someone would choose to end their own life when everything seemed to be going well. When their life seemed so full of promise and potential. When they had so much to live for. As a result, loved ones are frequently left in shock and denial, unable to accept the possibility that their loved one was battling with suicidal thoughts
The truth is, suicide is a complex and often inexplicable act. Even experts struggle to fully comprehend the factors that lead someone to take their own life. According to phycologists, suicide is a tragic, irreversible decision made in a moment of intense pain and suffering. It is not a rational act, and it cannot be explained away with a simple answer. While it may be impossible to fully understand the reasons behind a loved one's decision to take their own life, there are ways to find support and begin the healing process
Speaking to Dr. Willis Mutsune, I learned some valuable insights on how one can cope with grief. One of the key takeaways was the importance of seeking support, which can provide a helpful outlet for emotions and facilitate the grieving process. Talking to a trustworthy friend, family member, or therapist can help you process sorrow and provide an outlet for emotions. "It is also important to resist the temptation to blame yourself for your loved one's suicide." He said. "Suicide is a complex issue, and it is not your fault. Try to focus on the positive memories you have of your loved one and the ways they impacted your life."
Taking care of yourself is another critical part of the healing process. Grief can be exhausting both emotionally and physically, so make sure to get enough sleep, eat well, and engage in self-care activities that bring you comfort. Whether it's taking a walk in nature, practicing yoga, or spending time with loved ones, prioritize your own well-being
Educating yourself about suicide and mental health can also be a valuable way to cope with loss. By learning more about the warning signs of suicide and the factors that contribute to it, you may be better equipped to recognize when someone else is struggling and help prevent future tragedies
Above all, give yourself the gift of patience as you journey through the grieving process. Remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to coping with loss, and everyone experiences grief differently. As you work through your feelings and memories, know that it is okay to feel a wide range of emotions, from sadness and anger to joy and gratitude. Healing takes time, and there is no set timeline for grief. So, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up, trusting that with time, the pain will lessen, and you will find peace
- Kagwiria Njagi
